If I had to coach-mentor a leader of men what would I say? If leadership is about realizing a vision and making dreams actual, how would I live? Self-actualization is about living your fullest potential. So how then could I be a self-actualizing leader?
My job would be enabling and empowering all around me to be their highest and best while achieving their dream!
An observer commented about one of his peers. He said, "Your style of leadership is directional. You tell. You leave no space for creativity and personal potential. And if people should disagree, then what?"
I was taken aback. If that wasn't judgmental, what was? It seemed to me the accuser was guilty of the same!
That encounter made me think. What exactly is my leadership style - am I also directional?
Am I consultative? Or would others see me as weak --- wishy - washy. Directionless!
Worse still and heaven forbid, selfish. Was I all about ME???
So I read a "Crash Course" on LEADERSHIP by Walk The Talk, a favorite website of mine.
The 10 most important words:
“What can I do to help you be more successful?”
The 9 most important words:
“I need you to do this, and here’s why…”
The 8 most important words:
“That’s my mistake and I will fix it.”
The 7 most important words:
“My door is always open to you.”
The 6 most important words:
“Let’s focus on solving the problem.”
The 5 most important words:
“You did a great job!”
The 4 most important words:
“What do YOU think?”
The 3 most important words:
“Follow my lead.”
The 2 most important words:
The MOST important word:
And so as I step back from myself and know that if my intention is all about being my best and living my highest potential, there's a dance I must do. Before I become an expert dancer, there are steps and stages, attitudes and beliefs I need to change, levels of fitness I must groom within my mind-body-emotion, that will allow me to be all that I want to be:
Flexible / Graceful / Strong / before I get to live from that Inspired platform.
Hey! I wanted to talk about leadership and I've ended up talking about myself. Odd? Not really.
For no one can really inspire leadership if one cannot lead themselves.
For who would follow anyone un-inspiring? Who would give up time for anything weaker than themselves?